Showing posts with label endurance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label endurance. Show all posts

Thursday, March 10, 2016

The struggle is real.

I've been really struggling lately with the unknowns of baby girl's future. I am struggling with the brokenness of her story. I am struggling with the myriad of emotions swirling around inside as the winds of March blow outside my window.

Little things affect me in ways I never thought they would...
- A DNA test to find out exactly who the father is
- Extended visits with mom that occur where Lil' Peanut was hurt
- Appointments on top of appointments and a week's schedule that is no longer my own.

What I struggle most with though is all the unknowns. Will I pour my heart out into her for months only to have her stripped from my arms in the end? Will she be safe, loved and happy? Will my heart recover - and how will I possibly survive the waiting?

I know love is sacrifice, but I've asked myself often the last few days why it has to hurt this much?

Ryan is always telling me I am stronger than I think. I don't want to be strong...not if this strength keeps putting my heart in these situations.

I just want to know:  Is.  She.  Ours?

Then I think, If she is not...Would it change anything about my life now?
And the answer is:  No.
It wouldn't. I would still make bottle upon bottle and gently wipe the spit-up from her bow-shaped lips. I would still pat her back and rock her to sleep and slather her with an ungodly number of kisses. I would gaze lovestruck into her hazel-gray eyes and snuggle her head into my shoulder. I would cherish every second - and still choose to love.

The question God keeps asking me in all this:
Do you still trust me?

Well, yeah, but God!......
Do you TRUST me?
You know I want to, but can't I just know?
Dear one, do YOU trust ME?

And finally, I let go...weak and tired from the struggle, able to rest in the freedom of faith.
Trust in Him is the only thing getting me through this. Trusting there is no "worst case scenario" -- Only His best.

For her.
For her mom.
For us.

The pain of these moments is temporary. Someday I will "know fully, even as I am fully known." (1 Corinthians 13:12) He knows. He knows my heart. He knows my struggle and doubt and angst and He will carry me through. He always has. The aching cracks of it all just serve to let in the glory of His brilliant light.

In my quiet time the other day I was reading Genesis 18, where God is again reminding Abraham of His promise to provide him with an heir, a son - even in his old age. Abraham is doubtful and God replies "Is anything too hard for the Lord? At the appointed time I will return to you..."

It was such a poignant reminder.

There is NOTHING too hard for my God. He is fully capable of making this house Lil' Peanut's forever home. He is also fully capable of healing my heart if she leaves. That is what this all boils down to...His capability and my willingness to Just. Let. Go. Let go of my expectations and the desires of my heart and for this sweet girl. He knows all of it anyway.

I lift my eyes up to the hills - and His help is coming.
He made heaven and earth and my heart and this little girl and He knows all and is IN all.
His grace is here, in the hurt and the pain and the love.
And He is trustworthy.

All is Grace,
Carie


Friday, September 25, 2015

We're officially "official"!



It's hard to believe we are at this point, but we are officially licensed to adopt and/or provide emergency or respite foster care! There are so many unknowns and uncertainties, but we are fully confident that we are exactly where He wants us to be....And honestly, I'm beginning to embrace the unknown more each day, because it's there I am fully dependent and relying on God. When I choose to do things in my own strength or finite wisdom, its only a matter of time before I am burned out or bummed out and back in His arms of Grace.

Continue to pray for us as we begin this new stretch of our journey...
Here's our latest update:


And if you don't mind, please consider passing our story on? Each dollar brings us closer to helping two kiddos find their forever family...And the joy received in joining with our cause will far exceed the sacrifice of giving.

All is Grace,
Carie









Monday, August 31, 2015

Rings of Fire

Photos provided by Bea Hufman Photography


I don't know where you are as you read this, but things have been downright apocalyptic here in the NorthWest with well over 100 wildfires burning in Washington, Oregon, Idaho and Montana. Some locals jokingly refer to our four seasons as hunting, skiing, fishing and fire...but even our usual "grin-and-bear-it" sense of humor is starting to run dry as we have been socked in with increasingly hazardous smokey skies for days on end.

One or two days, even a week of smoke is pretty usual this time of year, and generally bearable, but when it starts to spread over multiple weeks and the brilliant blue dog-days of summer become a distant dream, you can be sure that cabin fever, irritation, general impatience and malaise are sure to follow.




I've been thinking how much the weather has resembled my emotional state the last several weeks - and whether my soul is mimicking the smoke or it is just a coincidence of timing - I find it a little ironic...

If you read my last post you know that we've been battling little fires of our own on all fronts...finances, relationships, uncertainty of the future, health, school - you name it, we've had a bit of it. Nothing major. Nothing catastrophic. But all those little fires sure produce a lot of spiritual smoke and it can be hard to see the big picture through the haze. 

In my struggle to give thanks in all circumstances (1 Thessalonians 4:18), I decided I would try to find the good in the wildfires raging across the land and what I gleaned has some amazing spiritual applications as well...So stick with me for a minute, it will all make sense in the end.


Wildfires 101

Wildfires are "powerful change agents that shape ecosystems. The specific pattern of fire - including how frequently it burns, how hot it burns, and during which season—helps dictate the types of plants and animals found in a given area." (www.nature.org) They have four major benefits:

1. Encouragement of new plant growth
Wildfires are a necessary contributor to habitat vitality and renewal. Many plant species in naturally fire-affected environments require fire to germinate, establish or reproduce. (wikipedia.org)

2. Creation of more space
Periodic fires can open up sections of the forest canopy, creating an opening for smaller plants that need lots of sunlight to grow; this stimulates diversity in the forest ecosystem.
(Discovery Education)

3. Forest management
By burning forest litter, fires release nutrients present in forest litter that would otherwise decompose very slowly and not be as readily available for the benefit of plants and wildlife. They also reduce the number of pathogens and insects that could cause longterm harm to the ecosystem.
(Discovery Education)

4. Ecological revitalization
Fire suppression can lead to the build-up of flammable debris and the creation of less frequent but much larger more destructive wildfires.
(wikipedia.org)

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There you have it.
If you weren't bored to tears with the unexpected natural science lecture, maybe you were able to catch as I did how amazingly these natural phenomenon mirror seasons of fire in our own lives. I noticed four major correlations to our spiritual seasons of renewing:

1. Encouragement of new spiritual growth
When we feel like our lives are under fire, maybe our perspective needs to change. Even though it goes against our natural grain, the bible tells us to count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. (James 1:2-4, ESV) The new growth - steadfastness - does not come without the trials, or fires, of life.

2. Creation of more space
Maybe I'm the only one, but my life is crazy. You'd think as a stay-at-home mom that maybe it'd be a little more sane than if I were running kids to a million activities or trying to get to work everyday, but even if my days on the outside seem rather tame, my mind is a veritable wasp nest of thoughts, plans and emotions. 

When all the little fires pile up, it can be really hard to get any real grasp on reality or sense of direction. But I've been finding that they are giving me an opportunity to lay aside every weight and sin which clings so closely so I can run with endurance the race that is set before me. (Hebrews 12:1)

When all the craziness and struggles crowd close, the light of the fires reveal my true self. My true character, strengths and failings. When rubber meets the road and my back is up against a wall all the imperfections and hidden angst come boiling out and I come face-to-face with the hidden realities that are holding me back in my walk with Christ. My exhaustion and fear give way to anger, impatience, jealousy, cattiness and selfishness. It is not pretty my friends - but the renewing work of the Holy Spirit burns away the spiritual litter and creates space in my soul for God to work. 

It also gives me a chance to simplify and throw off weights that are holding me back and weighing me down. Weight isn't necessarily a bad thing - but too much of a good thing can be a bad thing, and it's times like this that I need to reduce my commitments and the things that are getting in the way of me becoming who God has for me to be. Busyness doesn't always equal righteousness.

Along with the creation of space is...
3. Spiritual management
Creating space in my soul requires the removal of spiritual garbage so it can flourish and add new growth. These icky parts of me that float to the surface when under pressure do so in order for the Spirit to skim off the filth and replace it with the fruits and holiness he offers. Spiritual scrubbing is not comfortable, but the soft tender heart it reveals is worth the pain. 

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32

And finally,
4. Spiritual revitalization and regrowth
Without pruning, flowering plants cannot reach their full fruitful potential. These hard seasons, these testing of the faith and dark valleys are pruning what is temporary and producing in me the fruits that will last...love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. (Galatians 5:22) Every branch in me that does not bear fruit he takes away, and every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit. (John 15:2) When God cuts away the dead areas of my life, it is for my benefit. I'd rather have the pain of pruning and renewal than the permanency of spiritual death and destruction.

So all this smoke?
Yes, it's uncomfortable. It limits my vision, makes me feel claustrophobic and a bit panicky. There are moments when it feels a little difficult to breathe. Too much is bad for my health, but it is these seasons of trial and uncertainty and haze that force me to PRESS IN, and PRESS ON. Instead of worrying about everything and solving nothing, I am looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of {my} faith. The moments of pruning seem painful, but I have faith that later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. (Hebrews 12:2,11) 

I know above all this haze, the Son is still shining.
Hang in there dear ones. Brighter days are a comin'.

All is grace, 
Carie



P.S.  Two hours after I finished drafting this post it rained and today dawned bright with puffy clouds and sunshine! Here's hoping we've seen the last of the hazey days...For this year at least.